Do you have multiple personalities?

We play multiple roles in our lives, given what situations we are in. There are many roles that we are consciously aware of for example — being a friend, a father/mother, worker, boss, neighbour, companion, partner, lover, leader, follower, dreamer, go getter and many more. They don’t have different bodies and that is why it seems hard to grasp at once. But if we look at the psychological profile of each one — their body language, feelings, impulses, desires, principles, beliefs, ideals etc are completely different from each other. And we know that, all of this inner characteristics decide which direction our life takes. I am not saying it always goes in wrong direction but emphasising on how real power they have over our being (mind, body and emotions). We don’t usually think about it and we jump from one role to another without even giving it a consideration. But how can this perspective help us to better our lives?

Each personality living in us is a force driving our life. If we understand the nature of it all, we can keep them aligned with our bigger goal of life — to achieve fulfilment, to be successful, to be happy, to be content, to have the best experience of life whilst we are alive. For that we need to know for sure how many personalities are there in us. The ones that I have mentioned above are the obvious ones but there are many who plays in background. Sometimes they are very contradictory to each others, below are few examples of them.

• The one who wants to do something meaningful, the who is scared to start something new
• The one who worries about future, The one who wants to not worry
• The one who wants to wake up early, the one who doesn’t want to wake up
• The one who is motivated, the one who thinks its a failure
• The one who wants to love and be loved, the one who is angry
• The one who is content, the one who is envious
• The one who is alfa male, the one who is scared
• The one who is good neighbour, the one who is sensitive
• The one who is a good citizen, the one who is selfish
• The one who is a leader, the one who is lazy

And lot more, I have paired them up so that we can see, how they work against each other. Let me explain the first one in detail:

We decide that we want to start physical exercise from tomorrow, because we realised how important it is in our life. We are prepared to do all it takes to start doing it from early morning next day. We have made a solid plan with all things arranged for it. We have done our research, we know exactly where we will begin, we even know what outcome we want and how that will serve us in long run. Everything is nice, clear, sparkly and we have no doubt about it. We are certain that many of our problems (health related) will be sorted. We also know that its nicely aligned with our bigger goal of life too. That's person X doing all that. The rest of the story goes as:
We wake up next day person X is nowhere to be seen, person Y is there. Person Y is lazy, he/she likes excuses, doesn't want to leave the warmth of the bed, thinks its a terrible idea to go out and do such a thing as Exercise!. Sometimes there is person Z instead, he/she has some other priorities, needs to get something else done, finds some other strategy, is enlightened one and knows that something else  will have bigger/better outcome. Or this new moment gives birth to a completely new personality out of the distraction, emotional unfulfillment, dissatisfaction with the situation. 
Later in the day in between doing something else we realise that we failed today morning. That's a completely new person, person A, he/she feels terrible, defends person X, justifies person Y, hates person Z or any other way. And now person B is going for a real important interview, a business meeting, hanging out with friends/family or does the usual activity that is meaningful to us, can he really do the justice? with all this character plays going on in the back ground? Can we really keep count of how many persons take over our unclaimed being?

And is this how we live? Are we really in charge of our being? Is there a one person we can talk to, make accountable? If outside forces(people, situation etc) were to help us do something meaningful in life, would there be one person to commit to it, and abide by it? Is this defending/loathing/justifying/hating previous selves, becoming entirely different person in each situation, going through emotional shocks every now and then, keep allowing new person to enter our being — going to get us where we want to be in life? The answer is definite ‘no’.

What to do?

We can entirely manage one person — the person H (human). We can be human and best at it. If we know our original nature of being human (not in mind but in our being) then certainly we can be the best of the best of the best of the best of the best of the best human. Not just that, but we can also have fulfilment, happiness, success, better experience of life or whatever we call it. We can think of us as human when our situation demands something from us, we replaces all persons with human. For example, we are attending our child, we simply take the form of a human (the best version of human), how would a human behave with child? It seems a little paradoxical in the beginning but as we practice, we get better at it. We can’t be better than others, we can’t be worst than others, we can’t be our past selves, we can’t be our future selves, we can only be ourselves in present and more aligned we are with our inner self, better version we are.

How to be human, then?

Believe me, the last thing we need to ask someone is how to be human. We don’t need to ask others to be human. We are human already, we just need to know that(not in our mind only) in our being. When we know this, we know that we are vulnerable to life, life brings difficult/challenging situation and we experience those moment in present and present only. When there is no situation to be dealt with, we are ready and still (but actively still, not lazy — because lazy is person L). We are wide awake in any situation that life brings, we engage with it as our most inner voice commands, and it doesn’t command us, we are our inner voice, we command our being, we just witness the life process, untouched.

Wouldn’t it be boring to not have the excitement that life brings?

We witness that excitement, when we witness it in its pure form (no mental noise), its experience has multiplied impact on us. The excitement completely melts into our being, not just giving us the maximum possible experience of it, but also cleanses our inner self and strengthens our relationship with it (making us even better version of ourselves). What I meant by cleansing is that, we see in reality (not in just our head) what we are made up of, what things really motivate us, what life is doing to us, how we like the challenges, how we don’t want to be lazy and miss out on life, it brings immense amount of clarity in our life. By strengthening I meant, we realise (not in our mind only) that how being present in this moment is the only real experience of life-the rest being illusion, how we don’t want to indulge in mental fantasies anymore, how grateful we are for having this amazingly wonderful ‘being’ dedicated only for our experience. And that experience stays with us forever, we don’t need to revisit it in the future, we don’t need small talk before we start something new, we just jump in with stronger determination than ever before, there is no stopping us.

If we want to achieve complex things in our life, inner simplicity is the place to begin with.